Motherhood is an amazing experience, but it can be all-consuming. Time management is so important when you’re a parent, especially if you’re a new mom. In the beginning, I immersed myself in motherhood because I’m not the type to do things halfway.I’m all-in whenever I set my mind to something. After waiting longer than most people to be a first time parent, I took my role as mommy very seriously.
How Can Anyone Do Parenting Half-Heartedly?
Lots of people do. It’s easy to ignore children, get busy with work, and essentially have nannies or relatives raising your kid. Doing it yourself is much harder, like actually watching your own kid. But, sooner or later parents need to find balance because if they don’t they’ll go crazy. It’s not healthy to not look after yourself and run yourself ragged.
Some mothers seem to make motherhood look super easy, they live and breathe parenting. Motherhood is the only thing they’ve ever wanted to do! Women who have lived for the day to experience motherhood, have never wanted to do anything else. They don’t have any other hobbies outside of driving kids to soccer practice and cheerleading. In all honesty, being a mommy is not the only thing I’ve wanted to do.
Find Who You Are Outside of Motherhood
I have ambitions and goals and still enjoy working outside of changing diapers and picking up toys. Striking a balance is hard, but necessary. Being a mother is the most amazing human experience and raising a child should require all your effort. But, this doesn’t mean that you should forget who you are. It’s okay if you’re a better person now then before. Don’t stop being an individual with passions, dreams, and goals. Women especially fall into the trap of being the nurturer and giving too much of themselves. Whether it’s a relationship or the role of motherhood, women tend to give because it’s our human nature to do so.
You can give too much of yourself, which ultimately affects your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing. We are all no good for anyone especially our child if we don’t manage our time. Managing our time means allocating enough of it for personal career planning, self-improvement goals, etc. The quickest way to burn out as a mom and spiral into depression is to exclude personal care. To stay healthy and happy postpartum stage means mother must understand that self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
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